Sometimes we spend a lot of time thinking about all the negative comments people make about us. I’ve learned that it is not about what she said or what he said. It’s about what you think and say about you. To embrace the feedback of your fellow human being is one thing. To allow someone’s criticism to impact your happiness is another. If criticism impacts your happiness, then the relationship with yourself is affected as well. If you maintain a strong relationship with yourself, you will be able to manage criticism very well. Maintaining a strong relationship with yourself involves:
- Balanced Self-Esteem
- Positive Attitude
- Great Character Traits
Having a balanced self-esteem and positive attitude allows you to turn criticism into a growth opportunity. You’re able to take negative comments to see if improvement is needed. At the same time, you’re able to determine when a hurt person is using their words as a weapon and has no intentions of seeing you improve or succeed. Whatever their intentions, having great character traits will keep your emotions and responses in check. Examples of good character traits are integrity, love, respect, kindness, self-control, gentleness and patience. Balanced self-esteem, positive attitude and great character traits all determine how we will respond to criticism.
It boils down to this, it is not what the person said about you or to you, it is about what YOU believe about you and know to be true. Please know that you are AMAZING! Are you really intrigued about reading a little more on criticism? Check out Know Thyself to go a little deeper.