If you are a woman, you are a daughter. Your first relationship with a woman was established in your mother’s womb. In order to go from fetus to infant, nourishment is necessary. As human beings, when we are nourished emotionally, that means somebody makes a huge deposit of love into us; this creates an opportunity for another human being to withdraw from our love.
Usually, women who have poor relationships with their mother have not been properly loved. Issues of neglect, abuse, abandonment, emotional disconnection, and being dismissed are all examples of not being properly loved. Experiencing any of these negative patterns with your mother can impact your relationship with yourself and others. It can lead to low self-esteem and continuous self-doubt, strained relationships with other women, dysfunctional romantic relationships and chronic unhappiness.
Can we move forward from poor mother-daughter relationships? Of course! Change always starts with you. Consider the following to move forward:
- Moving forward means accepting that YOU have the power to change YOU and not your mother.
- Mothers cannot give you what they do not have. If your mother does not love herself, it will be difficult for her to love YOU at your requested level.
- Love wins! We can love mothers by listening, forgiving, using words to heal and not hurt. Some daughters have to make a decision to love their mother from a distance because being in her presence causes emotional harm.
- If your mother is no longer living and your heart is still filled with resentment because of the strained relationship with her, forgive YOURSELF for forgiving your mother. Enjoy the release of resentment.
- It’s been said, “Everything under the sun has a purpose.” Part of your mother’s purpose was to bring AMAZING you into this world. Because of the birth of you, you have touched my life just by reading this blog. For that, I say, “Thank you, mother.”
Love is free. Our job is to nurture this wonderful phenomenon called “love” every single day. In order for us to continue developing outside of our mother’s belly, we should operate as daughters of excellence by nurturing our self-love and love for others. Operating in love makes us outstanding mothers. Ultimately, this starts a healthy cycle of AMAZING mother-daughter relationships.
