What do you do when you are convinced that your boss does not like you? To work for someone that does not like you can create tension in the workplace. Here’s my question, does your boss respect you? It’s one thing for someone not to like you, but it’s another for them to make a choice to disrespect you. If you need help resolving conflict at your job, follow these steps:
First, if you are being disrespected, initiate communications with your boss so you can acknowledge the area that needs improvement. Remember, you cannot change what you do not acknowledge. Approach your boss and be specific about your concern. For example, your boss may bark orders and say something like “Hurry up” as if you are a child. You can respond by saying, “As your fellow human being, if you need me to do something quickly, I prefer you tell me that the project needs to be completed by a specific date instead saying, “hurry up.” If your boss does not adjust their attitude towards you, then meet with the person who supervises your boss or go to Human Resources so it can be documented. It’s been said, “If it’s not documented, it didn’t happen!” Remember, be sure to start and finish your communications with love; this is what YOU can control. You can be firm and patient with someone without being sarcastic and short tempered like them.
Next, make sure you are doing your job with excellence. Self-evaluation is necessary. You have to make sure you are not contributing to issues with your boss by half-way doing your job, going to work with a negative attitude, being late and/or absent frequently, gossiping and complaining to other employees. Make sure you are properly trained in your area of expertise. If not, connect yourself to the tools and resources so you can be the best at your job.
Would you give your newly paid off house away for free? Probably not because it’s worth something to you. Your knowledge is worth something. When you know your worth and the value of your skillset, you are less likely to stay at a job where people do not value what you bring to the table. You should not dread going to work. Your job should not make you miserable. Your job should not make you daydream about or contemplate hurting yourself or others. If your emotions reach that space of intensity, use your power to make another choice and find a job (or start a business) where you feel valued. Your relationship in the workplace matters. It matters because living in an unhealthy workplace chips away at your happiness, which is a part of your emotional health. You deserve to be happy every day in every area of your life. Don’t settle for less. If you want to experience an AMAZING relationship with your boss, start with the power you have by doing a self-assessment, opening up effective communications and understanding your worth as an employee
