The core of who we are starts with the experience we have with our family members or those close to us during childhood. That experience shapes our personality and how we build relationships with others throughout the life cycle. Before any disruption begins in the family unit, we want to matter to the people we believe are supposed to love us. Hurt can build within families when we feel unloved, rejected, unwanted, judged or ashamed. These feelings can serve as a barrier to feeling AMAZING around family members. If this is your experience, you may avoid family gatherings, dread holidays, experience anxiety or stress when you are around family. The way to manage feeling AMAZING around family is to take the following steps:
- Love yourself. When you walk into a room full of people, whether they are family or strangers, self-love gives you confidence and prepares you for any negative energy that may come your way.
- Understand that “hurt people will hurt other people.” Since this is true, the next time a family member hurts you with their words, say a special prayer for them because they are hurting. Make a decision to disrupt the pattern. Don’t add to the hurt by offering your own hurtful words. You are too AMAZING for that.
- Use the power of your words to love and lift your fellow family members. If the intent of your words are meant to heal and not hurt, then you can rest in knowing that YOU have attempted to make your family and the world a better place. You are responsible for your ACTION and NOT the person’s REACTION.
Family goes beyond blood and DNA. Being an AMAZING family member means you are committed to not being stuck in painful memories, always willing to forgive (some people may have to be loved from a distance) and devoted to constantly evolving into the best human being you can possibly be. Being an exceptional human being automatically makes you an AMAZING family member.